Building Self Esteem in Each Other and Ourselves
Speaking as a female who has been in eating disorder recovery for well over a decade now (after being treated as an adolescent at BC Children’s), I feel that there are so many different aspects to treatment and recovery. Each phase with its own challenges.
Where I currently stand, I feel that what’s got to give is our collective female disdain for each other, and what seems to be a perpetual state of feeling like no one is never good enough. In order for us to love ourselves, we have to learn to love and accept each other. When I was sick, I always felt like I wasn’t good enough. Someone was always skinnier, wealthier, more successful, more popular. This drove me to constantly hate myself and have perpetually low self esteem. Now, as a recovered individual, I feel that true self esteem is rooted in knowing that someone will always be skinnier, wealthier or more successful than you, yet also knowing that you are enough, just the way you are, and not hating that other person for their successes. Going further, we need to authentically celebrate other’s achievements, while knowing that we are enough, and learning to accept and celebrate our own successes and differences.
Women need to get better at building each other up instead of tearing each other down. If we start to go easier on each other, maybe we can start to go easier on ourselves.
~ Gwendolyn Donaldson